Bridesmaids Dilemma! I hate that dress on me!
Oh boy! This is so difficult. It's like hitting a brick wall. Okay, here is the scenario. You decide on the women to ask to be in your Bridal Party. You've talked to all of them. They realize that it is your wedding and the only time you'll ever do this (hopefully!) and since it is YOUR wedding, you're going to pick out the colors and style of the bridesmaids dresses. And it's not an issue for any of them. (Yeah right...just you wait!)
You all decide on which day you can all go and look at the dresses and try them on. the day arrives, you carpool together and you arrive. You're a very diligent bride, so you've gone in advance and you've chosen 5 colors and styles of the dresses you really like. Your wedding party consists of many different types and shapes and colors of girls. One is olive-skinned, 5' tall and 5' wide. One is lily white, 5'10" and is reed thin! Another is African-American, average weight and height. The last one is Asian, medium dark skin and 5'7" tall. Your maid of honor is your sister who is medium skinned, average height, but just found out that she is pregnant and will be due for the baby 3-4 weeks before the wedding! Have fun! This may sound "over the top"...but trust me, if it isn't this scenario, it's one very similar to it. Just change the names to protect the innocent!
I know, I know, it's your wedding day. I know that, but do they?
One of them likes the burgundy fitted dress. Why wouldn't she? She looks like a stinkin' model, or so says the 5' tall young lady. The shorter girl likes the champagne colored empire waisted dress. Your sister will never be able to wear anything other than empire waist, so that throws out a couple of the dresses that you picked out! And it goes on and on and on.
STOP THE INSANITY!!! This is where you come in. Look, you want to make everyone happy. I can understand that. But you HAVE to make a decision that is right for you, with their opinions being considered.
Really look at the way the dresses look on them and the colors. Compromise. You're never going to make everyone happy. And honestly, you should consider your maid of honor and her opinion the most. And since she will be big and pregnant, maybe give her a darker, more slimming color and then go from there. Just accept it. You're not going to please everyone. And when you've finally decided on a dress, there will be those that think it's too expensive! Ahhhhhhhhh!
Do this early. Get it out of the way. This is one of the most frustrating parts of wedding planning so don't leave it until everything else is falling apart. And also, call around before you go to these places and find out how much lead time they'll need to order the dresses and do alterations.
Breathe! This part will be over soon! Smile. That's about all you can do...
Much happiness coming your way,
Bella
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