Tips to help with wedding COLD FEET!
Okay, so now it’s just a few weeks until the wedding and your questioning if you should be getting married. First of all, just know this – THIS IS NORMAL! Everyone gets cold feet…everyone! These feelings of anxiety, worry and concern are very normal prior to a wedding, and both the bride and the groom may experience this. Don’t concern yourself because before you know it, those feelings will pass. Reason for this is that sometimes tension and anxiety looks for a reason other than the obvious which is putting together the biggest day of your life. That in itself can blow you up! But as human beings, we look for something else. Bingo! We question the decision of saying, “I do”.First tip – relax – breathe – go to the beach or the spa or wherever it is that you relax the best. Listen to music that helps calm you and talk it out with a parent or close friend. But, please make sure it’s someone that will be objective and realizes actually what is happening, not someone who is trying to thwart your special day. Just know that your feelings are completely normal and natural. For some reason, just thinking about that helps.
A good test of your anxiety is to take out a piece of paper and write down all of the things that are making you nervous and you are sweating over. You will soon find that they are all normal things that everyone gets concerned about and not really directed at your future spouse.
Also, if you have a married friend that has been through it, speaking to that person especially helps. They have gone down this road, and if they are completely honest, they will tell you that they went through it also. Something about knowing that others have felt the same way and understand you gets you through this time much quicker.
Next, make a list of all your fears and then all the reasons why you are marrying your partner. Normally, that puts this thing to bed. After doing this, write a love letter to your future spouse. Whether you give it to them or not is not an issue. Just do this to help you get in touch with your real feelings. Soon, they’ll come flooding out and you’ll know that this is all anxiety and it soon will pass.
Lastly, get away for the whole wedding process. I tell people that I consult on their weddings, that at least one or two days during the last few weeks, they need to walk away…go shopping…drive to the ocean…do something that will totally take them away from the craziness. You will come back a different person. That I promise you.
But, let me please take a moment here to say this. If there is any form of abuse in your relationship – emotional or physical abuse, any addictions, etc., then you have every right to call the wedding off. You are a future spouse, not a dormat, and you don’t want to enter into a permanent relationship with tons of baggage.
Please, if you have any questions, (even about your unique wedding favor *wink*), please don’t hesitate to write me at my website below. I will help any way I can.
Much happiness coming your way,
Bella
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