Avoiding Wedding Disasters! Part 1
Oh boy…what a topic! If I wanted to, I’d spend the time sharing with you of my own wedding disaster over 25 years ago. Thank God the marriage didn’t turn out like the day did! Now that I think of it, that’s probably why I do what I do…to stop that from happening to anybody else’s wedding!
Look, the process of planning of wedding invites all kinds of disasters. It can lead to arguments with your future spouse (usually over finances), it can cause discomfort between you and those you chose for you wedding party, future in-laws issues, blah blah blah. And believe me, it happens to everyone, so for the next 3 days, I’m going to dedicate this blog to this topic. Honestly, I don’t know why I hadn’t done this sooner!
First things first – let’s talk about you, the bride. There is a reality show on TV right now called “Bridezilla”. OMG! I want to smack those girls silly. Watch this show and just do the opposite of everything they do. That in itself will alleviate tons of potential disasters.
Secondly, be careful who you give control over to. You don’t need to please anyone. This is your special day – not your mother’s, aunt’s, sister’s, friend’s or future mom-in-law’s day. It’s yours. To avoid problems, don’t say yes to everything IF you don’t agree with it just to be nice and get everyone involved. You will regret this and you will resent those that take over. Be nicely firm. You’ll be happy you did when your day rolls around.
On the other hand, ask your family and friends to help with some of the planning and running around. Those that love you will want to help. Just make sure that you keep control, especially when it has to do with the moms. I love them…in fact I am one. But I’ve seen too many weddings ruined because of in-law battles. If your mom is different, you’re blessed. Then involve her all the way, along with the aid of those that will do what you really want and not what they want.
This “bullying” from mom (and dad) can occur when they are paying for some or all of the wedding. If this begins, you need to have a ‘heart to heart’ with them. If they don’t get it, take out a loan. I promise you, you will be happier that you did in the long run.
Lastly, speaking of finances, make sure you have a budget. I broke this down in one of my archived blogs, regarding how much things will cost, etc. The average wedding today (okay, sit down) costs between $20-25,000. And, that’s the “average.” Yes, some are less, but many are more. So you have to know exactly what you want to spend and stick to it, or you will end up paying for this for many years to come.
I promise I’ll bring you Part 2 tomorrow. I’ll “see” you then!
Much happiness coming your way,
Bella
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