Avoiding Wedding Disasters - Part 2
Okay – let me be pretty frank here. This is part 2 right? So I’m going to get right into it.
Mom and Dad are paying most of the bills for the wedding. They feel that since they are “dishing it out”, they are allowed to do and say what they want. This can result in the worse kind of power struggle for a young couple about to embark on a new life together. To the parents: if you’re going to pay for the wedding, then PAY for the wedding. Don’t expect doing that to give you free reign over everyone and everything. To the bride and groom: if this is what it turns into, RUN! Get married in a field of flowers on somebody’s farm before you should allow yourself to go through this torture. It’s not worth it…believe me.
Let’s talk a little bit more about money. Unfortunately, finances has probably caused more marriage breakups than any other issues. Don’t start out with yourselves in debt. If you have to charge a few things here and there, that’s fine. But make a decision how much you are going to spend and stick to it! Come up with a budget and consider that your ultimate guideline. You will thank me for this piece of advise in years to come.
To family and friends: give the future bride and groom the best gift you can give – let them be. Please be understanding. Please let them have “their” day. It seems to me that most people use those words, but truly don’t understand the meaning. Don’t try to live through them or dictate to them what you happen to want for their wedding. If they’re old enough to get married, they are old enough to make these decisions. Guidance is not dictatorship.
Yes, I know. For those that are parents and loved ones, this blog was not the most subtle. But please understand, as a wedding consultant, I’ve seen too many weddings go sour because of people’s interference. Don’t let it happen to you. Avoid this wedding disaster.
And tomorrow, besides Part 3 to this topic, I will discuss unique wedding favors. Promise!
Much happiness coming your way,
Bella
Unique Wedding Favors
Mom and Dad are paying most of the bills for the wedding. They feel that since they are “dishing it out”, they are allowed to do and say what they want. This can result in the worse kind of power struggle for a young couple about to embark on a new life together. To the parents: if you’re going to pay for the wedding, then PAY for the wedding. Don’t expect doing that to give you free reign over everyone and everything. To the bride and groom: if this is what it turns into, RUN! Get married in a field of flowers on somebody’s farm before you should allow yourself to go through this torture. It’s not worth it…believe me.
Let’s talk a little bit more about money. Unfortunately, finances has probably caused more marriage breakups than any other issues. Don’t start out with yourselves in debt. If you have to charge a few things here and there, that’s fine. But make a decision how much you are going to spend and stick to it! Come up with a budget and consider that your ultimate guideline. You will thank me for this piece of advise in years to come.
To family and friends: give the future bride and groom the best gift you can give – let them be. Please be understanding. Please let them have “their” day. It seems to me that most people use those words, but truly don’t understand the meaning. Don’t try to live through them or dictate to them what you happen to want for their wedding. If they’re old enough to get married, they are old enough to make these decisions. Guidance is not dictatorship.
Yes, I know. For those that are parents and loved ones, this blog was not the most subtle. But please understand, as a wedding consultant, I’ve seen too many weddings go sour because of people’s interference. Don’t let it happen to you. Avoid this wedding disaster.
And tomorrow, besides Part 3 to this topic, I will discuss unique wedding favors. Promise!
Much happiness coming your way,
Bella
Unique Wedding Favors
